March 6, 2013
Hi Everyone! It's not often that I post something that someone else has written, but this message from Denis Waitley speaks to me in volumes, as I'm sure once you read it, it will to you too. I have surely had my share of those "fair-weathered" friends who really didn't have my best interests in mind. Those that have bullied me have attempted to bring me down, but I have since learned how to be stronge and to let their words and actions roll right off my back. I hope Mr. Waitley's message inspires you just as much as it has me. Enjoy!
"Although your own internal measurements are the most important,
you will occasionally need to seek external feedback on your progress toward
your goals. When you do, be sure it is from people who are truly interested in
seeing you succeed. Don’t seek feedback from fair-weather friends, competitive
peers, or any person who doesn’t have your best interests at heart. Neutral
doesn’t count. Get feedback from someone who is on your side but will still be
objective and honest with you.
I’ve observed time and again that misery truly does love
company. Jealousy creates some of the most miserable people I know. Surpass the
achievements of your particular social crowd or your business colleagues, and
look out for the slings and arrows of those who wish you were back where they
are. You have to dodge the snide remarks and catty comments. Let them roll right
off you. Don’t internalize them.
Only pay attention to feedback from those who have similar goals or who are working actively alongside you to achieve goals of their own. Motives and fears run deep. Study them in others. The sympathetic fair-weather friend who supports you and comforts you when you're down, may like you best when you are in just that state: down and dependent.
Ultimately, nobody else is responsible for your life but you.
Nobody else is accountable for your actions but you. Therefore, nobody’s
expectations for you and opinions about you are as important as your own. So
make sure those take precedence in your mind over all others, and if you do need
to consult with someone else, think very carefully before you choose exactly
who."
Your True Friend,